Today’s cutesy viral video is from the UK where a mother was being interviewed on TV with her two children. The younger toddler runs around the studio, climbing up on the desk and everyone ignores it. In fact everyone laughs and thinks it was cute!
As the father of two children under 3 I find this behaviour absolutely disgusting. Not the toddler’s behaviour, I know toddlers sometimes do run amok even with the best discipline and training.
The problem I have with this is everyone’s reaction, especially the mother’s. It’s not okay to ignore such terrible behaviour in public. It’s not funny, it’s not cute, it’s unacceptable.
You see this in public places every day. Parents are standing in the queue for a bank teller for instance, meanwhile their kids are terrorising the whole bank, climbing on chairs and counters, drawing all over forms and making too much noise. Usually the parents are completely oblivious to their little brats anti-social behaviour.
Children must be taught that there are times where they must stand still and quiet with their parents. On several occasions I stood at the swimming pool holding my daughter’s hand while she pulled and screamed as we waited for her mother to get changed. She just wanted to run around and play.
However after consistently making her stand still and asking her to be quiet, now when I do this she does stand still with me and remain mostly quiet while waiting. She’ll also sit with me in a chair quietly and wait for long periods of time. Sure I often have to remind her to sit still and quiet, but she will do it most of the time. Yes she tries to test the boundaries, but with constant reinforcement it’s possible to keep her behaving.
Courteous behaviour in public, respect for other people and their property and waiting are all major life skills that children need to learn. We do nothing to help them learn those skills by laughing at or calling it cute when they misbehave.